Have you ever wondered what your purpose in life is? Many people think about this question and many struggle to put their finger on the answer. Perhaps it is because we need to change the question.

American author, Kris Valloton said:

“The people around us awaken the destiny dormant within us. If we find our people we will discover our destiny”

Often we see destiny and purpose as an isolated, personal pursuit. But this view misses out the fact that as humans, we were created for community. We actually need other people to come into the fullness of who we are meant to be!

So here are some thoughts as you explore finding your destiny:

1. Evaluate your 5 closest relationships – do they motivate you to go further? Do they challenge you to go out of your comfort zones? Do they inspire you or create fear or complacency?
2. Recall a time you were part of a great team – what was your greatest contribution or differentiating factor? What made you critical to that team? Something only you could really contribute.
3. If you are working alone, consider how you can be part of a community that is already doing what you want to achieve. For example, a public speaker may join a Toast Masters Club.
4. Find a mentor. Get someone who has the experience and wisdom you need for the next jump in your life or career and be willing to be open to their words into your life. For example, a young couple soon to get married would greatly benefit from meeting regularly with a successfully married older couple.

There’s a saying that goes – “if you want to soar with the eagles, don’t hang out with pigeons”! We often are who we are most often with. An ancient proverb tells us that:

“Iron sharpeneth iron; so a man sharpeneth the countenance of his friend”

May you find your destiny as you find your community!